A Guide to Staying Spiritually Aligned
Protection from Bad Energy & Enemies
It’s never easy to be around negativity. It can be toxic and detrimental, fostering a mindset of cynicism, fatalism and even defeatism.
If you are surrounded by negative energy that’s coming from a coworker, partner, friend, or family member, you must know how to protect yourself without engaging.
Meditation with a Magical Candle
If negative emotions and energy are flowing over you, take a few minutes to sit quietly in your own head and meditate.
Block the negative thoughts and make room for the positive emotions and energy in your life.
If you feel like you are becoming overwhelmed by negative emotion, energy or someone else’s negative emotion or energy, take a few minutes to regulate your breathing and reset your thoughts.
Focus on Solutions, not Problems
Negative people tend to spend more time on problems than on solutions. Involving complaining, finding fault and dissatisfaction. To stay positive, focus on creating solutions that work. If you meet resistance, look at strengths you can build on or simple steps to get the momentum started.
Don’t Feed the Drama
Negative people need drama in their lives as much as they need oxygen. To take their breath away, stay positive and upbeat and refuse the bait, no matter how tempting. Work to keep things on time, calm, flexible, and even keeled. When you do, you give them nothing to work with.
It’s a sad fact of life that you’re better off with some people out of your life. But you can’t accomplish the things you want to do in life if you are surrounded by negative energy–one of the most toxic and contagious forces on earth. Create and keep your boundaries from anyone who wants to break you down, even if they’re a family member or someone who thinks of themselves as a friend.
Stop Trying to Fix Everyone and Everything
If you find yourself doing things for others that they could and should be doing for themselves, you’re not helping but enabling. Sometimes we can unintentionally produce negative energy by carrying people when they can fend for themselves or we try to fix people when they weren’t broken to begin with. Learn when to stay clear.
Respond, But Don’t React
A response flows from mental clarity and emotional strength and is chosen to produce a desired outcome; while a reaction is an uncontrollable reflex that flows from fear-based survival impulses. Stay clear of unthinking reactions and learn to respond thoughtfully in the face of negative energy.
Take Care of Yourself
You can’t care for others if you don’t care for yourself. It’s not selfish or vain to love yourself, take care of yourself, or to make your happiness a priority. Learning and practicing self-care will help keep you grounded and strong when you’re faced with negative energy.
Stress Release & Relaxation
It's simple. Sit up straight with both feet on the floor. Close your eyes. Focus your attention on reciting -- out loud or silently -- a positive mantra such as “I feel at peace” or “I love myself.” Place one hand on your belly to sync the mantra with your breaths. Let any distracting thoughts flow along like clouds.
Take a 5-minute break and focus on your breathing. Sit up straight, eyes closed, with a hand on your belly. Slowly inhale through your nose, feeling the breath start in your abdomen and work its way to the top of your head. Reverse the process as you exhale through your mouth.
Slow down. Take 5 minutes and focus on only one behavior with awareness. Notice how the air feels on your face when you’re walking and how your feet feel hitting the ground. Enjoy the texture and taste of each bite of food.
When you spend time in the moment and focus on your senses, you should feel less tense.
Your social network is one of your best tools for handling stress. Talk to others -- preferably face to face, or at least on the phone. Share what's going on. You can get a fresh perspective while keeping your connection strong.
Tune Into Your Body
Mentally scan your body to get a sense of how stress affects it each day. Lie on your back or sit with your feet on the floor. Start at your toes and work your way up to your scalp, noticing how your body feels.
Simply be aware of places you feel tight or loose without trying to change anything. For 1 to 2 minutes, imagine each deep breath flowing to that body part. Repeat this process as you move your focus up your body, paying close attention to sensations you feel in each body part.
Place a warm heat wrap around your neck and shoulders for 10 minutes. Close your eyes and relax your face, neck, upper chest, and back muscles. Remove the wrap and use a tennis ball or foam roller to massage away tension.
Place the ball between your back and the wall. Lean into the ball and hold gentle pressure for up to 15 seconds. Then move the ball to another spot and apply pressure.
Laugh Out Loud
A good belly laugh doesn’t just lighten a mental load. It lowers cortisol, your body’s stress hormone, and boosts brain chemicals called endorphins, which help your mood. Lighten up by tuning in to your favorite sitcom or video, reading the comics, or chatting with someone who makes you smile.
Crank Up the Tunes
Research shows that listening to soothing music can lower blood pressure, heart rate, and anxiety. Create a playlist of songs or nature sounds (the ocean, a bubbling brook, birds chirping), and allow your mind to focus on the different melodies, instruments, or singers in the piece. You also can blow off steam by rocking out to more upbeat tunes or singing at the top of your lungs!
You don’t have to run to get a runner’s high. All forms of exercise, including yoga and walking, can ease depression and anxiety by helping the brain release feel-good chemicals and by giving your body a chance to practice dealing with stress. You can go for a quick walk around the block, take the stairs up and down a few flights, or do some stretching exercises like head rolls and shoulder shrugs. Take a hot bath with oils and salts, after that make a nice caffeine free tea with honey and lemon.
Keep a gratitude journal or several (one by your bed, one in your purse, and one at work) to help you remember all the things that are good in your life.
Cut Off Toxic Relationships
We all know how important it is to give our bodies a break from “toxic” food and alcohol, but what about giving ourselves a break from toxic attitudes?
Toxic people can try to cling on—sometimes for years! They can make you feel guilty and because of that, are not always easy to remove from your life.
Identify the Toxicity
The first step of getting rid of something—or someone—toxic is recognizing the fact that it’s harming you.
Toxic people are manipulative and often selfish. They're difficult to please and impossible to work with, even when you're trying to help them. They have a hard time owning their feelings or apologizing, and they will consistently make you prove yourself to them.
If a relationship is weighing on you constantly or bringing you down significantly more than it's building you up, it’s time to let go. Toxic people are a distraction from your true purpose.
Toxins have to be met with a powerful force. It's likely that they won't just respond to “Go away,” and will perhaps even dig their claws in deeper if you try to create a separation. Don't let this discourage you. Be very clear with the person about your intentions, then keep the necessary distance to make sure your message isn’t misconstrued.
Stick with your boundaries long-term or toxic people will use any weakness over time to sneak back into your life. If you told yourself you wouldn't respond to their texts, don't. Block their number and block them on all social media. Don't send them any e-mails and don't check in six months from now.
Once you’ve made the decision to end a relationship, you’re responsible for keeping the guidelines clear after the fact.
Don’t Be Too Nice
This may sound harsh, but since toxic people tend to take advantage of any kindness that’s imparted on them, being overly nice can be detrimental. Realize that they get their energy from draining your loving, good nature. They thrive on your trust and kindness. It doesn’t mean you have to be cruel (when they go low, you want to go high), but you should stop going out of your way to be overly accommodating.
Realize it’s Not Your Job to Save Them
Toxic people are great at showing up when they need something, particularly during moments of crisis in their own lives. They'll ask for a shoulder to cry on or an ear for you to lend. They may disguise it as wanting advice. All of these are ploys for your time and attention. Do not give in to them, no matter the circumstance.
If things are truly dire for your friend, you can direct him to resources that specialize in his issues. Solving his problems is not only not your responsibility, but also likely beyond your capabilities.
Know That When it’s Done it’s Done
Toxic people will keep coming back if you let them, so when you decide to say goodbye, make sure you’re ready to make it permanent. They will always find a way to create a problem in your life. When you've decided to move on, move on for good.
If the toxic person is family, and it's therefore impossible to make a clean break, you can still establish clear limits for your interactions (be it, we will only speak on the phone once a month or you will only visit during the holidays).
Treat Your Separation Like a Breakup
Yes, we need relationships, but we don’t need every relationship — especially ones that bring us more pain than support. Energy flows where attention goes. The more selective you are about where your focus is, the more successful you'll be. The more time you spend away from toxic people, the more time you have for yourself and the people that are positive, uplifting, and important to you. Make time for people who bring you happiness and let go of those who bring you anything less.
Be Constantly Aware of Opportunities
If you want the universe to work in your favor, you must also do your part. Manifesting the love you want really depends on you and how open you are to receiving it.
Keep Away From The Negativity Trap
Manifesting doesn't have to be complicated. There are straightforward and pain-free ways to incorporate it into your everyday routine. One really great way to do it is to stay positive during every situation.
Spend 10 to 20 Minutes a Day Getting to Know Yourself
You can do this by writing in a journal, meditating, or standing in front of a mirror and asking yourself questions about how you feel and how your day is going. Once you really know and love yourself, it's much easier to attract the healthy, positive and long-lasting relationship you want.
Be Clear About What You Really Want In A Partner
If you want the universe to deliver your ideal partner, you need to be very clear and specific on what kind of person you wish to attract.
So be specific. Ask yourself what your ideal partner and relationship really looks like to you.
On the other hand, trying to manifest a specific person can be extremely challenging due to several factors outside of your control. Instead, it's better to ask for specific traits or qualities that you like about the other person. It opens you up to more opportunities.
Wear Something That Makes You Feel Powerful
If you're ready to meet the love of your life, wear what makes you feel confident. Wear a shirt in that special color that makes you feel good, or a symbol that has a special meaning to you. When you wear those earrings, shoes, belt, or scarf, you're telling yourself and the universe you're ready, available and open to meeting your partner.
Do More Things That Create Positive Vibes
Don't be stagnant. Your ideal partner isn't going to come any faster if you're just sitting around, waiting for them to show up.
One way to do that is to keep moving forward. Keep doing things that make you feel fulfilled and happy.
Give Thanks for All the Love You Already Have in Your Life. Being grateful and giving thanks can help attract your ideal partner.
When we feel gratitude for all that we do have already in our lives, our desires can flow to us much faster. Spending a few minutes each day writing in a gratitude journal is one easy way to keep you on track.
Remember That There's No Such Thing As Rejection
This may sound ridiculous, especially for anyone who's been hurt by rejection. But think of it more as a change in mindset. Rejection is just the universe’s way of protecting you from someone who is not a right fit, so that you have room for someone who is. When you no longer fear rejection, you're more likely to go after what you really want.
Being positive all the time and having the ability to brush off rejection isn't easy. But according to psychics and manifesting experts, the universe does have your back. If you truly believe you can manifest that relationship you want, you will.
Cleanse Energy & Remove Blocks
Meditation with Magical Candle
Meditation with our magical candle’s healing herbs, oil blend and stones will help cleanse your energy and remove blocks that are in your way. Fire is the best source to cleans your aura.
Smudging is an ancient practice and is believed to clear negative energy. Sage is often used for smudging, but there are a variety of herbs and sticks that can be used as well. The smudging process can be done in several ways, but the purpose is to burn the end of the herbs or stick while letting the smoke carry away negative energy.
Crystals emit energy, but they can also clear it. Amethyst, Selenite and Clear Quartz are all great purifying stones. Place them around your home or office to help clear your aura.
Epsom salt has been used for thousands of years to detoxify the body. Taking an Epsom salt bath a couple of times a week is said to help ease muscle pain, calm anxiety, and promote sleep.
Our sense of smell can trigger our brain to have certain reactions. Because of this, essential oils can be a powerful tool in cleansing your aura. Scents like Lavender and Jasmine are great for reducing stress and cultivating positive vibes.
Practicing hot yoga is a great way to cleanse your aura. Sweating helps rid your body of toxins, and twisting postures ring out any negative energy you’ve been holding onto.
Attract Your Sacred Wish
Believe You Are Worthy
This is the key to manifesting your dreams, wishes and desires. When you truly believe you are worthy then you remove the resistance that is blocking the flow of energy for the law of attraction to deliver your desires.
Develop Soulful Rituals
When you nurture your soul, then you amplify your vibration. You can do this through meditation, yoga or cultivating rituals based on your specific intention. Create space on your life to look after your spirit and prioritize it with the same level of importance as brushing your teeth and taking a shower.
Speak to the Universe Hourly with Gratitude
Prayer and meditation are the best way to nurture a deep relationship with the Divine within (the Universe). When you make time to thank the Universe for the things that are showing up in your life, then you make the space to receive more.
Follow Your Heart
Get out of your head and into your feelings. When you take inspired action from your heart then you allow the law of attraction to do its thing.
See Failure as Divine Opportunity
Learn to see the failures in your life as a gift. These moments can help you get through hardships and even save your life.
Look for Signs of Alignment
The Universe is always speaking to you, but are you listening? Signs of alignment that the law of attraction is on the verge of being on hyperdrive tend to speed up as your vibration does. Signs can come in many forms.
Learn to say Yes
Learning to say “yes” to situations that are presented to you might lead to meeting new people or surprising opportunities. You can’t expect to live a full life if you sequester yourself. Putting yourself out there and being open to new experiences will bust your heart wide open.
Bless Your Past and Move On
When you speak of the past, think of it or constantly get emotionally triggered by it, it stunts your vibration and you’re sinking deeper into a hole of negativity. Show the universe gratitude for your past and move on.
Declutter Your Environment
If you want to know the fastest way to get your manifesting energy moving, it’s time to clean up your space. By decluttering your environment, you clear out the old and make space for the new.
You must trust in the process of the law of attraction and manifesting for it to work. If you don’t, then you get in your own way and setting intentions will become like talking to a brick wall.
Love & Harmony
If you want to create more peace in your relationships, it starts with your relationship with yourself. The relationship of your dreams, where there’s authentic connection and you feel loved, accepted, and honored just as you are completely possible when you realize that it starts with YOU.
Here are practices that will help you tame the monkey mind and create more peace, harmony, and connection with yourself and in your relationships.
Move Out of Resistance and Toward Total Acceptance
When you resist what is, you unconsciously resist your ability to create harmony in your relationships. You push against your partner as they express where they’re at in their own personal evolution and unwittingly create an energy of non-acceptance. This is bound to create tension, but that tension is eliminated once you consciously move into the energy of acceptance. If you choose to be with someone, accept them as they are and not the version you wish them to be. Allow them to grow and transform at their own pace and continually choose to accept them exactly as they are in each moment.
The purpose of a relationship is to deepen and enrich your experience of life. You need to practice genuine gratitude for the relationships you have to allow them to enrich your life. Gratitude is a form of love. Gratitude fosters bonding and makes everything enough. It makes the people in your life good enough to you, imperfections and all, eliminating any sense of less than or more than that keeps you separated and offering anything less than unconditional love. That sense of appreciation, non-judgment, and non-criticism will be felt by the people in your life. They will trust you more for it, put their faith in you more easily, and will feel innately valued for who they are. Being around you will genuinely make them feel good, which will cause them to link pleasure to being with you, causing them to want to be with you more. More time spent together opens the doorway to a deeper relationship.
The quality of innocence is a combination of purity of intent and unconditional love. When your intent is pure, free of all ulterior motives, dishonesty, or manipulation, and your intent is backed by the force of unconditional love, you embody innocence and unleash the true power of authentic love in your relationships. The expression of your purity and honesty opens a space for the people you are in relationship with to trust you enough to expand into a space of trusting vulnerability.
Embodying these two-character traits simply feels good and will nurture a spirit of bonding between you and the people who mean the most to you. Coming from a place of innocence will make you to stand out as a rare beacon of true love, playfulness, and light. Attracting the same into your relationships.
Come From a Place of Heart-Centered Sincerity
Learn to rest in and live from your heart, with love for all people and with most of your behaviors being love-motivated, rather than fear-motivated. The intent is always pure and the desire to serve is sincere with love-motivated behaviors. That heartfelt sincerity will be apparent to the people who matter most in your life, and they’ll thank you for it. The true magnet for astonishing, loving relationships is being centered in your heart. You will attract love wherever you go.
Prioritize Clarity and Communication
Clarity goes beyond honesty because it’s attempting to reach the goal of understanding. Language is often misconstrued and a large percentage of what you try to convey is expressed more through your body language than anything else.
Harmony and peace come from understanding and that doesn’t have to mean agreeing. It’s simply seeing and accepting where the other person is coming from. When clarity is the foundation of your communication you can truly grow together, without fear of your words being taken the wrong way.
Intuitively, you know if something’s been taken the wrong way or misconstrued. These are often the occasions which drama seems to appear out of nowhere. Before that happens, address the feeling and do your best to create complete energetic clarity around your intention.
Make Time for Ongoing Personal Development
If the quality of your relationships and everything in your life results from who you have become, the stronger and more aware you become. Improving your life in return. You are the creator of the circumstances in life. When you shift yourself, everything that you create is shifted. When you improve yourself, all your relationships will be naturally uplifted in direct proportion to the changes you make. The quality of your relationships in many ways directly reflects your level of mental, emotional and spiritual development.
Focus your life on growth and being all that you can be in every aspect of your being. On the development of specific character virtues, on your own physical well-being and inner healing, and on your self-actualization. You will become happier, healthier and more loving as a result. Which will have the same effect on all of your relationships.
Money & Abundance
Believe You Are Worthy of Happiness
Part of attracting wealth requires that you believe you are worthy of happiness.
None of the other steps mentioned here can be taken until you truly believe you are worthy of happiness. You must let go of the guilt and shame associated with the past.
Focus On What You Have Right Now
Many people fall into the trap of ruminating over what they don’t have or what they have lost. This unproductive way of thinking begins the downward spiral of negativity which is a repellant against the positive forces of happiness.
Focus on all that you do have through the gift of gratitude. We have only this moment in time. Yesterday is gone.
End the Cycle of Learned Helplessness
To continue engaging in learned helplessness is to remain trapped in the poverty’s gravitational pull. You cannot attract wealth or other positive things into your life when your emotional and Karmic space is occupied with the words, “I can’t”.
End the excuses of what you cannot do and begin to use the words “I can”. For example, I can attract wealth because I am worthy of happiness.
Jealousy of another person’s worldly possessions means that you are occupying your mind with an illusion. Just because someone is driving an expensive car does not mean they necessarily have money or that they are wealthy. Jealousy is a liar, projecting a false narrative that is almost never grounded in the truth. Let go of your jealousies and make room for joy.
Clear negative energy. Embrace the simple things and fill yourself with peace.
Respect the Power of Money
Money is the byproduct of your hard work and labor. When you disrespect money, you disrespect yourself. Respecting money means keeping it organized. It means tracking it on a regular basis. It means recognizing that money holds both
restorative and destructive powers and that it is not to be handled lightly.
Money has the power to grow and take care of you for many years to come when managed properly. When disrespected, it turns atrophy and negatively impacts your future. Respecting money means not using it as a temporary tool to boost self-esteem through unneeded spending.
Attracting wealth into your life requires that you go beyond wishful thinking. It means making a conscious choice to learn all you can about money and how wealth is accumulated. Examine the practices, beliefs and habits of enlightened people who have created and attracted wealth. These are your teachers.
Recognize that people who have true wealth do not wear flashy jewelry, drive expensive cars or wear designer clothes. The majority of millionaires are meticulous budgeters who have created their wealth over the course of time.
This final point relates to the spiritual and Karmic power of money. When we give money to those who are less fortunate, we are helping to replenish the human spirit. Do not hoard money or it will leave you.
Use your empathic abilities to determine who is in need and how you might help them. An example might be offering to pay for groceries in the checkout line for a struggling family in front of you. It could also mean donating your time, which is a form of money, to your favorite charity.
When you give from a place of genuine love and compassion to others, you make room greater happiness, which is the precursor to wealth.
Remember that most people who are financially stable became that way through hard work and an honest, deep abiding belief in themselves.
It makes intuitive sense that if you lock yourself in your house, not many exciting, serendipitous things are going to happen to you.
Certain personality types are luckier because they tend to create scenarios that maximize opportunities and thereby increase luck. Who is luckier?
People who are extroverted: More time with others means more interesting possibilities.
People who aren’t neurotic: Tense, anxious people are less likely to notice and take advantage of opportunities.
People who are open to new experiences: If you resist the new, you’re probably not going to have many interesting things happen.
Keep trying new things. If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten. Lucky people act on their intuitions across many areas of their lives.
Expect Good Fortune
Plain and simple — it’s optimism. You’re more likely to try new things, follow through on opportunities and have them succeed if you believe they’ll work out well. And that optimism gives lucky people more grit. When you think things will work out, you persevere. And when you’re resilient, you give possibilities more time to work out in your favor.
Turn Bad Luck Into Good Luck
Lucky people aren’t always lucky — but they handle adversity differently than unlucky people.
Lucky people see the positive side of their bad luck.
Lucky people are convinced that any ill fortune in their lives will, work out for the best in the long run.
Lucky people do not dwell on their ill fortune.
Lucky people take constructive steps to prevent more bad luck in the future.
Do not dwell on the bad. Look at the big picture.
Health & Wellness
Drink a Glass of Water First Thing in the Morning
Coffee’s great too, but it’s best to start your day by re-hydrating with a full glass of water. Hydrating first thing in the morning helps to aid digestion, enhance skin health and boost energy.
Take the Stairs
Taking the stairs instead of the elevator is a simple way to get more physical activity in your daily life. It also helps strengthen and tone your legs and core.
Make Vegetables Half of Your Serving
A simple hack for healthy eating and portion control is to make half your plate veggies at each meal.
Eat Real, Nutritious Food
Aim to only eat real food that’s made of whole food ingredients you would have in your own kitchen pantry.
Get Sunlight Every Day
Vitamin D is one of the most important nutrients for overall health and sunlight is a great source of it. Aim to get at least 30 minutes of sunlight each day. Preferably in the afternoon.
Sweat Every Day
Aim to sweat in some way each day. Whether that’s running, biking, dancing, hot yoga, or any other physical activity you enjoy.
Get Enough Sleep
Most adults need 7-9 hours of sleep each night.
Take a Walk
When it comes to a healthy lifestyle, doing just a little bit is better than doing nothing at all. If you want to go on a walk but don’t have time for your usual hour-long walk, take a short walk around the block. A 5-minute walk is better than no walk at all!
Other tips to improve your health and wellness include spending time alone, meditating, working hard, being kind, taking daily probiotic, drink a daily green juice of choice, choose organic foods, switching to natural skincare and household products, add houseplants to your home, floss your teeth daily, stand up after every 30 minutes of sitting, work on overcoming fears, keeping a positive mindset, managing stress, and practicing gratitude.
Force & Power
Stress-induced emotions consume huge amounts of energy. Talking with a friend or relative, joining a support group, or seeing a psychotherapist can all help diffuse stress. Relaxation therapies like meditation, self-hypnosis, yoga, and tai chi are also effective tools for reducing stress.
Lighten your Load
One of the main reasons for fatigue is overwork. Overwork can include professional, family, and social obligations. Try to streamline your list of "must-do" activities. Set your priorities by level of importance. Don’t hesitate to ask for help at work if necessary.
Exercise almost guarantees that you'll sleep more soundly. It also gives your cells more energy to burn and circulates oxygen. And exercising causes your body to release epinephrine and norepinephrine stress hormones that in modest amounts can make you feel energized. Even a brisk walk is a good start.
Smoking siphons off your energy by causing insomnia. The nicotine in tobacco is a stimulant. It speeds the heart rate, raises blood pressure and stimulates brain-wave activity associated with wakefulness, making it harder to fall asleep. And once you do fall asleep, its addictive power can kick in and awaken you with cravings.
Restrict Your Sleep
If you think you may be sleep-deprived, try getting less sleep. This advice may sound odd but determining how much sleep you need can reduce the time you spend in bed not sleeping. This process makes it easier to fall asleep and promotes more restful sleep in the long run. Here's how to do it:
Avoid napping during the day.
On the first night, go to bed later than usual and get just four hours of sleep.
If you feel that you slept well during that four-hour period, add another 15–30 minutes of sleep the next night.
As long as you're sleeping soundly the entire time you're in bed, slowly keep adding sleep on successive nights.
Eat for Energy
It's better to eat small meals and snacks every few hours than three large meals a day. This approach can reduce your perception of fatigue because your brain needs a steady supply of nutrients. Eating foods with a low glycemic index whose sugars are absorbed slowly may help you avoid the lag in energy that typically occurs after eating quickly absorbed sugars or refined starches. Foods with a low glycemic index include whole grains, high-fiber vegetables, nuts, and healthy oils such as olive oil. In general, high-carbohydrate foods have the highest glycemic indexes. Proteins and fats have glycemic indexes that are close to zero.
Use Caffeine to Your Advantage
Caffeine is known to help increase alertness and sharpen your mind. To get the energizing effects of caffeine, you have to use it judiciously. It can cause insomnia, especially when consumed in large amounts or after 2 p.m.
One of the best hedges against the midafternoon slump is to avoid drinking alcohol at lunch. The sedative effect of alcohol is especially strong at midday. Avoid a five o'clock cocktail if you want to have energy in the evening. If you're going to drink, do so in moderation at a time when you don't mind having your energy wind down.
Water is the only nutrient that has been shown to enhance performance for all but the most demanding endurance activities. If your body is short of fluids, one of the first signs is a feeling of fatigue. Fuel your body with the recommended half and ounce to an ounce per pound you weigh.
Sexuality & Attraction
Regular aerobic exercise and strength training can increase your stamina, improve your body image, elevate your mood and boost your libido.
Finding a better way to cope with work stress, financial stress and daily hassles can enhance your sex drive.
Communicate with Your Partner
Couples who learn to communicate in an open, honest way usually maintain a stronger emotional connection, which can lead to better sex. Communicating about sex also is important. Talking about your likes and dislikes can set the stage for improved sexual intimacy.
Make Time for Intimacy
Scheduling sex into your calendar may seem contrived and boring. Making intimacy a priority can help put your sex drive back on track.
Spice Up Your Sex Life
Try a different sexual position, a different time of day or a different location for sex. Ask your partner to spend more time on foreplay. If you and your partner are open to experimentation, sex toys and fantasy can help rekindle your sexual desire.
Ditch Bad Habits
Smoking, illegal drugs and excess alcohol can all dampen your sex drive. Ditching these bad habits may help give your sex drive a boost and improve your overall health.
Science has found a link between high cholesterol and women with difficulty in arousal and orgasm. When cholesterol builds up in the arteries, it restricts blood flow, even to your pelvic area. This can lead to decreased vaginal sensation, making it harder to achieve an orgasm. Keep your cholesterol in a healthy range by eating on fruits and vegetables and cutting down on animal fats and whole-milk products.
Smaller, spontaneous acts of touching your partner prompts your body to release the hormone oxytocin which may boost closeness and arousal. Studies have shown that even 20-second hugs can help people feel more bonded. Care for your face and body every day at the morning and evening. Maintain a skincare routine, take an Epsom salt bath with aromatherapy oils and our magical candles. Visit spas. Treat yourself as a Queen or King.